Welcome to Thomistic Womanhood. In today’s video, we’re going to talk about what a woman brings to the table. It’s a rude question but it has an important answer that as women I think we need to know

Welcome to Thomistic Womanhood. Happy Thomistic Tuesday or whenever you’re watching this. So in today’s video, we are going to answer a very rude question. I don’t know if you’ve ever been on a date and thankfully I have not had the misfortune of this happening to me, but I have heard of it happening to other women, where a guy will ask you so what do you bring to the table? What is the woman bringing to the table? Okay, well, if he asked that that’s a red flag because that shows that he hasn’t thought it out for himself and has not identified the value a woman can have to his life so he has no business taking Going out on dates. If you ever get asked that, I think what you should say is just tell them myself in my womb. It’s true. And if he pushes beyond that, like, Oh, well, he’s the one in the wrong.

However, aside from that, this is an important question that as women, especially maybe single women who are looking for a guy, this is an important question to understand. We need to understand what men value in a woman, you know, what do they like about us so much? Why do they seek us out to be life partners? Like what is that you know, what’s driving that that’s an important thing for you to understand. And I think our society has become very good at, you know, wanting a partner, but we’re also busy knowing why we want a partner, it becomes difficult to get, you know, attract a partner because we don’t know what they want. So that’s what we’re going to talk about in this video. The next video I’m going to do is about what a man brings to the table, you know.

So today we’re going to talk about what we have to offer men, you know that they value us because we have a lot to offer, we have our mind, our intelligence, but there are certain things that men tend to value and appreciate more than others. And then in the next video, we’ll talk about what is a man brought to the table, you know, what do we want from men, there is often an instinct to kind of like partner up, you know, and find someone. And as women, I think it can be very hard for us sometimes to kind of tease out, you know, and figure out why do I want him and so much what are the concrete things that I think he’s going to bring to my life. So we’ll get into that for what we’re talking about today. There are six things. The last final thing is not as compelling as the other five. However, if you have it on there, it’s going to make everything else way more enhanced. But I think of these things like a badge pass in some high-security facility. I mean, if you have it, boom, you’re in, like, show the badge like you’re in. So that’s how compelling they are.

And so the first one we’re going to talk about is his youth. And I’m not talking about 12-year-olds, you know, I’m talking about that age of life about 18 to 30. For women, where our beauty is at its height, you can tell when you look at a young woman, her face can shine, there’s something vital about it. It’s not vital, but the vitality, let’s put it that way. The vitality and her health are, you know, they call it the bloom of youth. You know, that is something that men appreciate and they notice and find attractive. That’s why, you know, men will often talk about that, you know, young women are so beautiful and if you ever look at really wealthy old bachelors, it can be kind of gross, how they’re like still going after young women. It’s creepy, but that’s because men on a natural level are very attracted to the youth. That vitality that women have. And this is also part of the Thomistic definition of beauty. When you read the definition, splendor is part of the definition. It’s some order, you know, beauty, there’s symmetry there. But there’s also a certain splendor beauty that has a certain splendor to it. And youth is very, there’s that splendor, you know, so yeah, if you ever want to check that out, look at pictures of actresses maybe now versus you know, actresses that have a long career. Look at them now versus when they were like, first popular and like in their 20s, you know, sometimes I will Google like, actress name in the 90s. And then you’ll suddenly see pictures of her when she was like in her 20s. And you can compare, you know, there’s a certain vitality and splendor there. Now, that’s not to say that men will only go for young women, they don’t. The next thing we’re going to talk about is you know, you don’t necessarily have to be young to have it. But again, it’s one of those things. It’s something that men value about women and that they find attractive on a primal level.

So the next thing beauty. No surprise there, you know, we all know men admire beautiful women. I think as women, we can be a little hard on ourselves on what we consider beautiful versus what men consider beautiful. We will put a lot of stock in the symmetries and the artistic pneus you know, and the way it’s all like laid out and the perfection of the technique you know, especially with like makeup, you know, you’ll see these like makeup tutorials where this girl put on like 20 products and us women we admire the skill and the art that went into it, you know, we go Oh, that’s beautiful. Whereas men often are like, no, that’s not you know, you know, so what men consider beautiful is often a little bit different than what women consider beautiful and men will place a lot of stock on looking natural-looking healthy and beautiful to them is often a smile you know like the radiant joy a happy woman, you know that can be very beautiful to men but or do you know men do tend to look for a certain order in your features. You know, if you’ve got an eye that’s like sliding off over here, it’s probably not gonna be the most beautiful, just say, but you get what I mean. So beauty that’s another thing if you’re a very beautiful woman, regardless of your age if you take care of yourself, you know you do your skincare, you put thought into your makeup and your hair and your appearance. You know you can look beautiful well into your old age. So that is another thing that men appreciate about women. It’s something they value you know, they like women who look good and put themselves together you know, in women who put effort into their appearance.

The next one, fertility. This is something men especially men who are, you know, they’re more I don’t want to say mature because that implies age, but you know, when a guy who’s got his head on straight, you know, he’s not just trying to play the field, and he wants to have children and kind of have like a legacy. He values a woman who has some fertility left, you know, as women, we, we can only be, you know, we can only bear children up to a certain age in life. And so men will often value women that have the ability to bear a child and that is something that’s really important to them. So that’s another characteristic. That is something men value in women.

The next one, sexuality, okay, I’m not going to spend too much time on this, but we all know men like to do that. So clearly, you know, they want a woman they can sleep with. So we’re not going to go too much into that I separated fertility from sexuality, even though they are very much connected with women because our fertility is kind of time-bound, and it can affect our sexuality unlike with men, our fertility and our sexuality don’t always coincide. You know, even outside of age, you know us women, we kind of have our fertility lasts, you know, from when we first get our period to, I would say maybe like mid-40s, you’re pushing it some women, it’s late 30s. But again, there is a window of time where we’re no longer able to have children, but we can still, you know, sleep with someone and do the physical act. So that’s why I kind of separated those a little bit. But that’s, you know, I’m not going to get too much into it, like, sexuality is something that a woman brings to the table.

The next one is femininity, you know, this is where you are different. You know, there’s a certain difference between men and women. And men find that very attractive, you know, they like the softness and the gentleness of a woman. They like our unique perspective on life. You know, men can be very efficient and you know, oriented and sometimes they can kind of lose the forest for the trees and women kind of bring back that softness. A holistic view of life, you know, we will kind of focus on everything you know, it’s we’re considered better multitaskers considered

I don’t nowadays when we talk about multitasking, it’s often like a knowledge worker kind of capacity, which I don’t think it’s true. But it’s, you know, women do we will cook dinner and watch a little kid and go, Oh, you know, I have to pee. Like, there are so many things that we can keep track of at the same time. Men, not the case. You know, they will usually like, Okay, I have to pee. They’ll go take care of that. Okay, I have to make dinner. Okay. Oh, there’s a kid who forgot dinner, there’s get to know, men are very linear. And they appreciate that difference about women. They appreciate the way we look at the world. You know, a healthy man, some men look down on femininity and they don’t appreciate it. But a healthy man, you know, if you are a feminine woman who embraces her womanhood, men appreciate that, you know, they see that you’re different from them and they appreciate that in the world. Really want it in their life. femininity has a very calming effect on men. That’s why a lot of men with very high-stress jobs, or you know, they’re like CEOs, very wealthy men, you know, men that become wealthy usually become wealthy because they take on the high-stress work that nobody else wants to do. You know, high-stress work is often paid more, and so often, but not always, unfortunately. But that’s why these kinds of men seek out a woman who is softer and gentler, you know, maybe she’s more joyful. She doesn’t look at the serious side of life is much. Men seek out that kind of woman because it has a calming effect. It helps them feel balanced again, you know, it makes them feel better about life to have that in their life. And men, you know, certain men that are mature and they have their head on straight.

They value that about women. That’s why a lot of us, you know, in today’s world, women are kind of forced to take on masculine characteristics. That’s why it’s harder for people to come together and you know, kind of partner up so to speak, you know, that natural difference there between men and women is lost. And then it’s harder for people to kind of magnetize to each other because that opposite is no longer there. But you develop, you know, not women are naturally feminine. I think we get conditioned to be very masculine, but we’re naturally feminine. So if you develop that you get in touch with it, that’s something a man will appreciate about you, the right man, you know, as I said, some inner imager.

The next one, this is the final one that again is not as compelling these other the ones I said before youth, beauty, fertility, sexuality, and femininity. As I said, those are like a badge, man, you show that boom you’re in, the more those you have, the more you’re in like, you know, again, there’s some certain like accidental surface qualities you know, some guys like nerd girls, you know, other guys like You know, the preppy classy kind of girl you know other guys like the girl next door, you know? So there’s kind of a certain I want to say like the packaging to it but at its heart as long as you have these things listed and you’re the particular flavor that that kind of guy likes, you know if you’re like the geek or the preppy or whatever, then yeah, boom, you’re gonna be in the next one.

The final one though, is it’s kind of like I think it enhances all the rest of them, but it’s housekeeping. You know, a lot of men want a woman in their life because they don’t want to cook and clean, you know, especially if they have a very demanding job. They don’t want to come home to you know, a lot of men that have a demanding job. They don’t cook that well for themselves. They buy takeout. They eat Chef Boyardee because they’re in a hurry. You know, their socks are somewhere in the laundry heap and they’re, you know, yeah, let me just dig them out and like, Oh, they smell fun. I guess I’ll wear them again.

You know, and that’s why men value having a woman in their life because a woman can kindly bring some order there, you know, she can cook them healthy food, she can make sure he has clean laundry. And those are things that men value. Again, it’s not quite as valuable as the other things, but it’s one of those things where if you have that everything else on this list is, you know, way more. It sweetens the deal, so to speak. And again, it probably sounds sexist a lot of these things. And it can be a little concerning, because maybe you’re listening and you’re like, well, I don’t think I’m not beautiful, or I’m not young anymore. You know, I’m 35. I don’t have this bloom of youth anymore. Am I still, you know, yeah, you can still get a guy you don’t have to have every single one of these things. You know, now if you’re in your early 20s and you’re beautiful and you don’t have any fertility, you know, ovary problems or anything and you’re very feminine. You know how to cook and clean like, you are very like you’re gonna have an easy time finding a guy. The trouble might be you finding somebody that you like, but that’s another story. And we can talk about that in the next video.

But again, you don’t have to have every one of these six qualities, as long as you have, I would say maybe like two or three, you’ll probably find someone, you know, men are not picky. And I think the most compelling one is femininity. I think out of all of them, if you can have that, like female companionship, and that feminine view and kind of give him that peace, you know, and that soothing presence in his life, I think that that’s the most compelling one out of everything on here. And I think that’s why a lot of women I read in there was a woman back in the 1700s. And she was very charming, you know, and she was able to attract, I think they said she attracted three generations of men in the same family, like well into her 80s you know, because she just, she kept her femininity. She was very playful, she was joyful. You know, she enjoyed life. You know, she lived with a little bit of that For Life, regardless of how old she was, and so as you can see it, you’ve kind of lost your youth and beauty lost your fertility. You know, it was the 1700s clearly these men probably wasn’t sleeping with her unless they were married, you know, so that sexuality wasn’t really on the table, but she had her femininity, you know, and men, they flocked to that, like bees like honey, as long as they’re a normal, healthy man who’s not like emotionally damaged in some way. And there are a lot of men like that nowadays, we have a society of a lot of broken families. So some men emotionally, you know, they see a feminine woman and they want to move toward that, but they stop themselves, you know because maybe there’s some trauma there. Maybe their mother wasn’t, you know, maybe she had problems with her femininity, you know, you know, so there can be issues but assuming you’ve got a normal healthy guy, femininity, I think is going to be the most compelling one. So don’t despair.

If you feel you don’t have youth or beauty. Maybe you’re a young 20-year-old woman, but you have fertility issues, you know, maybe you have like PCs or something and you’re like, you know, I don’t know, if I could have kids, you know, well, you still have the other things. So don’t despair. But anyway, that wraps up this video. This is everything that a woman brings to the table from a man’s point of view. Now, notice, I didn’t say career. Notice I didn’t say, you know, high intelligence. You know, some men appreciate that you know, some men want a mind meet. But it’s not. It’s not something that I think is as universally compelling as these things.

Again, I think that falls under like, what is the type, you know, what is the flavor of the woman he wants, provided? She has a few of these other things. But again, that’s, that’s why I say this can sound a little sexist. I think we women want to be loved for our mind and who we are as a person.

And I do think men are very capable of you know, loving us for that. And knowing us for that, but again, I’m speaking from the point of view of men. And these are the things that I feel men, you know, based on what I’ve seen and heard and like, you know, had men talk about, these are the things that they find the most compelling. So if you can find a way to cultivate these qualities now, sexuality you want to be careful about that one, our society is very free and easy in that and so that’s not something you want to like cultivate and wear on your sleeve. But these other qualities, you know, if you have these other qualities, then by definition, like you’re an attractive woman, you know, to men. So again, that’s something I wanted to talk about kind of briefly today. I don’t know how long this video is going to be. I hope it was concise. But yeah, so if you have a question or a comment or something, feel free to leave a comment and if this is information you like, you know, please hit the subscribe button, hit the little bell so it notifies you and I’ll see you next time.