The fourth and the last one is to avoid jobs or careers that require a stressful amount of initiative and conflict. Again, this is why it’s important to go on coffee, coffee chats with people, talk to people in the career you’re looking to get into and ask them like how much? Is there a conflict? I mean, how much initiative do you have to take? How much of your work is how much structure is there? Do you have to define what you do? Or is there kind of a map laid out and you just follow the map, coming back to regular jobs other than doing entrepreneurial things, if you’re going to do a job, get a job, where you don’t have to do the job. And what I mean by that is, in today’s society, because of globalism, and what globalism is, in this context is, we have shipped so many jobs overseas. And also, we are hiring so many people overseas to do jobs here, call centers or tech, we have a lot of programmers that are overseas. And so Americans are competing, and everybody, everybody in the world because a lot of a lot of countries are doing this, it’s not just the US.

And so we’re ending up in a situation where when you’re looking for a job, and you’re doing work, it’s like you’re competing with everybody in the whole world. And it makes work incredibly competitive. And because of that, businesses have to slash jobs locally and hire less people to do the same amount of work so that they can stay profitable, and stay competitive, and not be undercut by some business in India, where the exchange rate means that they can work for pennies, while the American company has to work for dollars. And it’s just not profitable. And so because of that a lot of companies are understaffed, and you end up having to you don’t get, you know, maybe the management you need, there’s not as many managers to outline the work that needs to get done me working in tech, this is a problem I saw all the time, managers didn’t really manage anymore, I was responsible for defining the parameters of what my work would be. And as someone who had an entrepreneurial background, it always kind of sucked, because I was like, that’s not what I got a job for.

If I want to create my own job, I would have been an entrepreneur, and then I could have set the hours and I wouldn’t have to be working in the middle of the night but there are jobs that sometimes require a lot of initiative, you have to come to work got to give these like presentations, and you got to come up with these marketing plans. And it takes a lot of initiative, and that’s stressful for a woman that’s really stressful. Now, some of you have a more cleric attitude, and you’re kind of a natural leader, and you like it, and you’re energized by it, and that’s okay. But some of you aren’t going to be generally energized by that. And if you’re the kind of person who isn’t energized by it, that’s going to be stressful. And also conflict, if you’ve got a co-worker or a boss that is a toxic boss, or a toxic working environment, that’s going to create a lot of stress for you. So you don’t want to work at places where there’s a lot of turnover, everybody’s fighting and it’s just a negative environment. You don’t want that.

So don’t work somewhere where the work itself is going to be stressful enough, there’s a certain built in level of stress that is just natural to having a job. That’s why they pay you, they have to give you money to come in there. Because staying home in bed is better. So there’s a certain natural level of stress that’s going to be in every job but But yeah, if there’s conflicts with coworkers, if you happen to work somewhere where it’s very, like clicky clicky, or people are really snarky and rude or you’re on an interview, and they’re not very nice to you don’t work there because it’s going to be stressful. And stress for us women is very bad because we have more delicate thyroids than men and again, our reproductive systems, our fertility is very affected by stress. And you don’t want to screw up your thyroid or screw up your fertility because you have to go through day after day after day of stress, but you want to take care of your health. Don’t stress yourself out too much. Because what can often happen is you can get so stressed out in the workplace. By the time you get married, you have fertility issues, and most of the time if you want to be a stay at home mom, and you want to stay home with the kids. You’re planning on having kids. So you want to maintain your fertility and your ability to do that.

So don’t stress yourself out. You know too much. There are certain jobs now. The stress again, this is something you discuss with the people close to you, because what you may consider stressful maybe is just growing pains, maybe you just have to mature and go through the experience. But yeah, its good food for thought, be careful with that. And also, if you have to take a lot of like leadership and initiative and go through a lot of stress and conflict, it will force you to develop masculine behaviors, and that is not necessarily bad, us women, you should always have a certain, men and women, men need to develop their feminine side, be in touch with our feelings, things like that, but they need to predominantly be in their masculine side, it’s okay for men to be in touch with their feelings, and it’s good, but they should predominantly be in their masculine, they should be problem solving, and leading and solving problems that are for goals that they set, moving toward a goal, women should be predominantly in our feminine side, we should be connecting with others, and we should be nurturing. And, socializing and learning about the softer side of life in the more beautiful side of life and taking care of those that are weaker than us that’s important for women. However, as a woman, you do need to have a backbone, so you do need to develop some masculine behaviors, you can’t wait around for everybody to solve everything for you.

So, sometimes you need to learn to solve your own problems. So being in the workforce can help you develop those skills. But it’s a balance you don’t want to go overboard. And if you end up in a stressful work environment, it can force you to have to over develop those masculine skills, it just is a coping method and then that becomes difficult when you’re dating, because then you’ll have this like, masculine way of relating to everyone around you. And that can kind of work against you in the dating world. So it’s something it’s something to be something to be aware of. Now, like I said, there’s a natural amount of stress. But if you find yourself crying at work, I’m serious. Like if you’re going in the bathroom and crying at work on a regular basis, like if it’s happening a couple times a month, every month, after month, after month, you need a new job, like you shouldn’t be working there a job shouldn’t be making you cry. If your job is making you cry, you need a new job. That’s kind of the barometer, there’s going to be stress in every job. But yeah, crying on the job is not that’s a sign something’s wrong.

So yeah, and then also, I mean, if you’re waking up every Monday, and just like completely, horribly, dreading it, and I mean, dreading I mean, we all dread going to work. Nobody likes waking up on Monday. But I mean, if you’re to the point where like, you’re bummed that you didn’t catch cancer, so you could have gotten out of work. Like if it’s that bad, where you’re like, wishing you develop a terminal illness so that you didn’t have to go to work. You need a new job, okay? Seriously, and I’m saying this because I’ve been there, like, I’ve had jobs where I’m like, I wish I had cancer, so I didn’t have to come in here. Like, I’m serious. Like they were that bad. But anyways, this is a long, rambling video, like all my long rambling videos. But anyways, I hope this was helpful for you. If you have a question or comment, leave it down below. Um, you can if you like this, you want to hear more, subscribe, hit the bell, get notified, YouTube’s notification system is a little wonky.

So you might want to actually come back to the channel page every so often, because it doesn’t always notify you even when you hit the bell seems to be a bug to have. But yeah, I hope that was helpful. Those are just some things to keep in mind. Those four things are kind of the biggest, the biggest factors you need to keep in mind. And the biggest criteria you need to judge a job or career with if you want to be a homemaker, these are the things to watch out for, so that you don’t get sucked into this black hole and get made into some career woman against your will. So anyways, just some stuff to keep in mind. These are things I’ve learned the hard way. Like I said, I’m getting married in my 30s. I’ve worked ever since I was like 19. I worked in college. So I got my first job when I was 17. And then I took a year off when I went to college, the liberal arts college. But other than that, I’ve been working since I was 17. And this is all the stuff I’ve learned through difficult suffering. Like I had to learn this the hard way because I was somebody that wanted to be a homemaker from the beginning and I only had jobs because I couldn’t live at home and I had to pay bills. So these are the four things that tripped me up or if I didn’t the college that didn’t trip me up. I at least dodged that bullet.

But these are things I learned the hard way and I don’t want you to have to learn them the hard way. So I am sharing them in this video. So anyways, I hope that was helpful. And I guess I’ll see you next time.