Welcome to Thomistic Womanhood today’s video, we’re going to continue the beauty, truth, and goodness series. And we are going we’re on the goodness part. And we are talking about compassion in this video compassion is we all know what that is, it’s kind of having certain sympathy and empathy for people. And I think this is actually a very beautiful thing that women have. And it is something that comes easier to us. And I would, I think that we need to talk about it. Because there is, I feel like in today’s society, women either have a complete lack of it, or we air by having too much of it, and then we get into trouble. So this is gonna be a short video, but it’s an important one.

So compassion is something that will often be very apparent in women, men are often they’ve rushed along, they just do what needs to be done. And women tend to look closer, and we tend to see the human behind the situation or the person behind the project, so to speak. And we will often, pay attention to kind of how they’re feeling and things like that, in a certain sense, we can feel our way into other people, we can kind of imagine better how they must feel about things. And that is a very beautiful tendency of women that we’re able to do that. And it is important men look for a compassionate, nurturing woman to spend their lives with because it’s a nice contrast to them. I’m not saying men should completely lack compassion, you should get a man that has a kindness and tenderness to him to men, even the most like more like an aggressive guy, he should have a soft side to him, or else he’s not emotionally balanced. That’s not healthy.

But right now, we’re talking about women. And again, having that kindness and that compassion and that empathy, which is important, sympathy is when you kind of understand the situation intellectually, and you’re like, yeah, I could see how that would hurt. Empathy is when you really put yourself in their shoes. And it’s not really just intellectual, it’s like, you can really like feel their pain. So that’s good. Don’t blow it off, a lot of women tend to sometimes we can lack compassion, we have to do so much, struggling and work and take initiative, in order to build up our careers that I think sometimes we have to kind of let that our compassion falls to the wayside.

But it’s important to, it’s important to have that it’s important to feel sorry for people, there’s a lot of sad things that happen in life, a lot of times life is not fair, there’s an interesting saying that says, Every person has a story that can break your heart. And everybody does not everybody shares that story, a lot of people are intensely private, and you may never hear it, but everybody has something, everybody has some sort of struggle or disappointment or cross they have to carry, and the world can be very cold, sometimes just a sympathetic look, can do a lot for somebody, we don’t know, how close to the end of their rope, people can be sometimes a small act of kindness can really mean a lot, and on the other hand, the lack of an act of kindness, or the lack of sympathy at a crucial moment, can sometimes drive people over the edge, and so you never know. But that’s important. That’s compassion, and that is having compassion.

Now, on the other hand, sometimes women can have too much compassion. And we can kind of turn into what’s known as a bleeding heart, we always feel sorry for people. And it’s to the point where we coddle them, we don’t allow them to take responsibility for themselves, sore sympathy and our compassion has to be balanced. I do think there is an element in a society where we can often be too sympathetic, and we want to give too many handouts, and we want to make everything too easy for other people. And it is the law of life, that we reap what we sow, our actions have consequences. And sometimes compassion is not the right approach. Sometimes people are hurting other people, and then they get what they deserve. Sometimes it isn’t pretty, and so you have to be careful of that.

And then also, a lot of men when they want to manipulate women when you’re dating a guy, sometimes he can deliberately tell you a sob story, just to kind of like play on your emotions and manipulate you. So you also want to be careful about that. sometimes you do need to be a little hard-hearted, sometimes that’s important. And that’s in your interest. So you don’t want to be completely overly in your feelings so much that you just feel so sorry for this guy or this person or whatever. And then it’s just kind of like your feelings run you and you get into trouble. Or maybe you don’t look objectively at something. And you’re giving somebody maybe too much slack, you’re cutting too much slack.

So it is said that truth lies in the middle and this is a perfect example. It’s important to be compassionate, it’s important to be sympathetic to people. But at the same time, you also want to be careful and prudent, and you don’t want to swing to the other extreme, and be excessively just excessively feeling sorry for everybody to the point where people can manipulate you, or to where maybe you advocate for things that are actually not in society’s common good, you hyper-focus on the poor and the unfortunate, to such an extent that you kind of advocate things that are actually going to destabilize society as a whole, we can only give help so much, there’s a certain point where people do have to help themselves. And if we try to direct too many resources to help people who could help themselves in whatever capacity, some you can destabilize the society doing that, and it’s not good, so everybody has to do what they can for themselves that amount may vary by person. But, you also don’t want to take away someone’s dignity. If you do too much for someone, in a certain sense, it can humiliate them, you have to let people be able to stand on their own two feet, and let them take pride in that, so that’s important as well.

So again, we don’t want to go to either extreme, but compassion is something that women traditionally have been known for. And it is beautiful, it is a beautiful tendency we have, we are the ones who will usually slow down and pay attention to someone who’s suffering and that is a beautiful thing. And that is something that is a quality to develop. So anyways, quick video, just wanted to mention that when we talk about goodness, it’s a personality trait that should be present in every good woman’s personality, a balanced version of it. So anyways, that’s compassion. I hope that was helpful. So if you have a question or comment, feel free to leave it down below and subscribe, watch more videos, whatever. So have a good one.