The next one is the feminine manner. Okay? And this is kind of what encompasses just the way you carry yourself. You know, how do you walk? How do you use your hands when you talk? What are your facial expressions, you know, kind of say, so let’s kind of break these down. First of all, when you walk, you know, as a woman, there is a certain springiness, you know, certain energy to your walk, that is important. It’s not necessarily like swinging your hips, although that’s kind of part of it. But when you walk, and it’s kind of, it’s hard to describe, but you want to, you want to kind of have a certain pep in your step. And that can be very feminine, you know, and there’s a certain energy to it, you know, and a certain spontaneity, and so that can be very feminine, you know, the way you walk can be very feminine, you know, if you have like a very kind of casual, leisurely way of just kind of strolling down the sidewalk, that can be very feminine, hand motions, you don’t want very, like, harsh, and, like, hard kind of movements, you know, if you see, you know, men, like they have a salute, you know, and it’s very like, like, forceful, you know, it’s very masculine, because there’s that energy there. In the contrast, women are gentle, you know, they’re very fluid, you know, that’s why dancing can be certain kinds of dancing can be very feminine, especially when you look at cultures.

Nowadays, I feel like our dancing has just become very light erotic, there’s such a, like sexual tone to our dancing. But if you look at different cultures, kind of their classic historical versions of dancing, dancing was often very gentle, you know, like, you know, like Hawaiian women, they, they did the, you know, they would move their hands very gently. And so that can be very feminine. Because again, it’s that contrast, when men move, it’s like marching or saluting, and it’s very exact and precise. And there’s energy to it, you know, and it’s like, rough, you know, or they’re like punching. And it’s like, very, you know, masculine movement is very, like, there’s a lot of force to it. Whereas with women, it’s graceful, it’s gentle, when you’re using your hands to express herself, you know, try to make it gentle, you know, again, don’t do something that doesn’t feel genuine to who you are, if you’re not the kind of person that uses your hands.

When you talk, don’t use your hands when you talk, then you know, you don’t have to do it. But when you use your movements, or you grab things, I had a friend who she had very, like, brusque movement, she would grab things very quickly, she would grab a book, or there’s so she was always in a hurry, you know, when she grabbed things, and it was almost kind of agitating to be around her because you could kind of feel the energy. So as a woman, you know, especially if you’re on a date with a man, when you’re sitting across from him, your movements are very visible, you know, so, you know, reach for the wineglass kind of gently, you know, use your silverware kind of gently, you know, and again, when you talk, when you use your hands, try to have gentle movements, you know, a little more fluid and graceful, you know, that is something men talk about, you know, the gracefulness of women, you know, very elegant, you know, kind of way and going back to the walk, there is also you know, there’s a certain playfulness, you know, certain spring in your step, you can also have kind of a very classy walk, you know, like with the book on your head, you want to walk very straight, you know, that can also be very feminine, because it’s very fluid and graceful, you know, and very still and soothing.

So that can also be another way to, to show femininity, and, you know, there is a certain beauty to it, you know, because it’s very graceful just like we see beautiful dancing, you know, there are certain dances that are very beautiful to watch, you know, like I’m thinking of like the Japanese like the geishas with our fans, you know, there are ways of moving that are very, you know, feminine and fluid and gentle. And that can be you know, the feminine manner, you know, just the way you move the way you you, you know, go about your environment, the way you move your body, you know, the way you sit, you know, as a woman, you don’t want to necessarily just be all sprawled out, you know, I think I did lean back in one of my other videos, like, sometimes I’m bad at that.

But you know, you want to, you know, you want to kind of sit up straight, sit up straight, have good posture, you don’t want to, you know, try to especially if you’re wearing a skirt, you know, you want to keep your like cross your legs a little bit cross some at the ankle. Some people say that it’s bad to cross your legs at the knee that it’s not ladylike. I don’t know. I feel like the jury’s out on that one. Oh, it definitely does look more feminine. Maybe we can make a video later on like how to sit in a feminine way. But Google the can bridge cross or an ankle cross. Those are ways that you know women like Kate Middleton, you know, the royalty. There are certain ways that as a woman you’re expected to sit that is You know, very ladylike and that can be part of the feminine manner, like, you know, how you say, you know, your legs, you know, splayed out, you know, you want to sit kind of in a compact, you know, you don’t want to take up a bunch of space, you know, it’s very masculine to, like, take up a lot of space, you know, because, you know, masculinity is about being big, and about being imposing, you know, and about, you know, having some force to you. Whereas with a woman, you know, you want to kind of have yourself be a little more contained, maybe, you know, you’re not big, in a way, you’re kind of small, you’re not taking up a lot of space, this actually has been kind of demeaned a little bit, a lot of women who are like, you know, management consultants and stuff, they will tell women in the workplace, don’t be small take up space, you know, lean in, but that’s because in the workplace, it is a masculine environment.

And if you want to succeed there, you do have to take on masculine qualities, you know, you do have to behave in a in a masculine way, so that you blend in, you know, and you’re kind of people then see your work better, because they’re not distracted by something they consider inconsistent with the environment. And like it or not, femininity is deemed as inconsistent, you know, with the spirit and the culture of a lot of workplaces, not all of them, you know, some workplaces, you can be very feminine in them, but there are certain workplaces, especially when you get into like, the really male-dominated industries, if you act like a woman that is going to be very, like, you know, if you act really feminine, that’s, you know, that’s going to be kind of seen as like, so if you’re trying to attract men, though, you want to flip that around, and you do want to look a little more reserved, and, you know, demure, and kind of put together, you know, you don’t want to be splayed all over the place, you know, you’re just be like, you know, kind of together.

So that’s a feminine way to sit a feminine way to walk, and then you know, your hand movements, and then also facial expressions, you know, you don’t want to have like, hard mean, you know, look to your face, you know, this is why I guess we’ll call it RBF. You know, pardon my language, it’s like resting bitchface, let’s call it resting mean face instead, you know, sometimes women get, you know, they get accused of that they’re like, Oh, you mean, are you mad, and you’re like, No, I was just starting off in the distance, I think I can have that because I’m a very serious person at times.

And so as a woman, you know, you want to again, that’s another thing that is kind of an overflow of how you’re feeling inside, you know, so you want to keep yourself in a good emotional equilibrium, you want to kind of keep that inner happiness, because then you’re not going to, if you have hard mean thoughts, it’s going to show on your face, you know, and then you’re going to have kind of hard mean expressions, you know, or like contempt for people, you know, try not to, you know, you want your, your, your facial expressions to be kind of, you know, kind and welcoming and inviting, you know, now, there is a time and place for putting your foot down, I’m not saying you always have to be like, nice, no, make sure you don’t scare people off by how you look, you know, or, you know, let’s say you’re, you’re writing public transit by yourself. And you’re, you know, passing through a rough part of town, and like, some weird guys get on the train. Yeah, having some resting mean, the face might be a little protective for you, you know. So there are certain times and places where you know, you don’t want to have a, you know, smiling, welcoming look on your face. But again, if you want to be attractive, if there’s, you know, like, let’s say you’re on a date or something, you want to have feminine expressions. And one of the ways with femininity, especially with facial expressions, is you want to have wide eyes, you know, so if you raise your eyebrows, and you open your eyes up a little bit, you can look very feminine versus this where you’re just kind of more like serious.

But if you’re talking and you’re a little more animated about it, it can look prettier, because it opens up your eyes. And that can look more feminine. You know, men have that heavier brow, their skull, they’ve looked at male skulls and male and female skulls and the brow I think it’s something to do with testosterone, it makes the brow like heavier, almost like if you see pictures of like cavemen, you know, they have that heavier brow. So as a woman, when you raise your eyebrows, you will emphasize the differences between you and men, you won’t have that heavy brow, it’s very opened up. So that is a good facial expression. If you raise your eyebrows, you can look very feminine, but it’s usually best to do it like when you’re talking, you know because then you’re like, animated and it’s like, you’re just walking around like this all the time. Like, I think that would look weird.

But again, raising your eyebrows, you know, especially when you’re talking to men, it can look trusting, you know, and have you ever noticed that when children or you know, people, in general, ask you for something sometimes they raise their eyebrows and they’re like, Yeah, please can we do it, you know, raising your eyebrows and kind of opening up the eye area there that can look very good. Trusting and you know, that’s that can be very appealing to men because again, it is such a contrast to their narrow eyes and our serious look, you know, and then you have a woman, it’s like, oh, hi, go tonight, you know, there’s, there’s a difference there. So that is a very feminine facial expression. You know that is important when you talk to men, raising your eyebrows, and opening up that eye area can be very feminine and very attractive. So that is important. There’s something else I was going to say about feminine facial expressions, you know, again, you just you don’t want to look very harsh or mean, you know, in your, in your facial expressions. So yeah, well, contact that’s another important thing. But again, the feminine manner, you know, it’s just being Oh, one other thing, a feminine way to get out of a car, especially if you’re wearing a skirt that is maybe kneeling, you have to be careful, you don’t accidentally flash people.

One of the ways, you know, you learned this in modeling, you know, that’s why I feel like model school. Because I came from California, my cousin did modeling, I actually didn’t get into modeling, because my mom was strict. And the gateway into modeling is like, it’s like beauty pageants. So like, my mom would let me do beauty pageants. So then I couldn’t do modeling, which sucks, you know, whatever. But my cousin did modeling. And she told me about how in modeling school, they will teach you how to walk, you know, up and down the runway, they teach you how to sit, and they actually, you know, back in the day, we had charm school, or we had like finishing school, and I feel like modeling school has taken over some of those functions. But again, the reason I brought up modeling school is that there is a certain way to get in and out of a car that they teach you in modeling school. So when you go to modeling school, you are not, and I wish I could show you, when you get into a car, you don’t actually, and I’m wearing a pretty long skirt, but maybe some you know, maybe at some point, we will, we can do a video on like how to be feminine and get in and out of a car. Basically, it is rather than get into the car by putting one leg into the floor, and then slide over into the chair part, you know where your legs are spread, and that can often push-pull your skirt up, as you’re sitting in there.

Actually, what you want to do is you want to actually kind of turn your butt toward the chair and the in the door, and then kind of go in, but first and then kind of move your legs in close together after you. And then when you are coming, that’s when you’re getting into the car. And then when you’re coming out of the car, you swing your legs out front, out the door, both Put your feet straight on the ground, and then push yourself out, you know, out of the car, don’t do things where you put one leg in or out and kind of move like that. Because again, that can pull your skirt up, you know, it can actually hike up the skirt. And then you know, you may accidentally show more than you intended. So again, that’s kind of a tricky thing to describe. Maybe we’ll do a video about it later. But that is part of the feminine manner, you know, you want to gracefully get into and out of a car because it’s kind of a tricky thing. Like if you’ve ever worn a dress that was maybe almost a little too short, you’re like, Oh gosh, you know, it’s something to keep in mind. So anyways, the feminine manner, you know, the way women move, you know, tying a tie can be you know, for a man can be very attractive, you know, especially when you’re like doing the gentle you know, little movements of your hands right there, you know, that can be very attractive, you know, to men, because again, it’s a difference, it’s a contrast, you know, they’re gonna do it all efficient and quick. And then you’re over there like Dude, do you you know, like it’s different. So again, I’m in a manner, you know, that can be very attractive, you know, just the way you walk the walk and move and just kind of you know, carry yourself throughout the world.